I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

I feel bad for females who don't recognize their self worth and need a guy to make them feel like they're something. I personally would love to slap the crap out of some of these people, but it won't help them realize it. It's WONDERFUL to find that one person who makes you complete. See how I put one? I believe the feeling of completion is a rare feeling. A feeling you only get when you find the One. Now if you felt this feeling for all your boyfriends then your Feeling-O-Meter is seriously broken and you're an idiot. Just because he tells you, you're cute or buys you a 25 cent pack of Now and Laters and some Cheetoes doesn't mean he's the one. -__- Get it together sweetie. When he realizes just how weak you are and notice how much you can't "live without him", he'll start doing the most. Cheating, lying, taking advantage of you, cheating, you'll probably think it's ok because "he's the one and every relationship has their share of ups and downs". No. Every relationship doesn't have a You.

Also females out there that are putting their BOYFRIENDS or girlfriends in front of their education. Shame on you! Shame Shame Shame Shame!... SHAME! You're significant other is not in charge of your future. Neither is he more important than your grades. You need Jesus, a hug and a reality check.

But... You're Nasty

Lately I've been noticing how a lot of people with... harlot tendencies, think that they can have their waffles and pancakes too. Do you really think that you'll be respected as man or woman to be take seriously under relationship circumstances if you're letting every and anyone have a piece of you? Don't get me wrong, people can sleep, lick, nib or whatever with whomever they want. I just find it stupid on your part if you're saying you want to be in a relationship but you're not showing such. Your mouth is saying "I WANT A MAN!" or "I WANT A GIRL!"... But you're actions are saying "I WANT MEN" or "I WANT GIRLS!". Man or woman means 1. Men and women means more than 1. It just doesn't make sense to me that you're crying for love but you're letting lust overcome you.

Reciprocated Love

Ever been in a relationship where you felt like you were giving more than the other person? Constantly showering him or her with endless affection and you're met with not even the bare minimum? I always hear people say they want 50/50 in a relationship. That means you're only giving half of you. And when the other person slacks you're taking over their share as well. To me, that's not enough. I want 100/100. All of you. Because I'm not around for all the nonsense. If it is a relationship you actually want to go somewhere, you will do every and anything in your power to make sure that happens.
Unfortunately some people like this game. It's kind of like you go to work all day, from 9 to 5. Come home dead tired only to find your significant other chilling on the couch watching television. The house is a mess and dinner isn't even attempted. So as the person who shows love all the time, or in this case work all the time, you clean the house and cook dinner. All the while being tired. They don't ask you if you need any help or anything. That right there is just trifling. You're doing your share and theirs. Some pathetic people like this. The whole catering to your woman or man ordeal. I dont have a problem with catering, but some stuff isn't catering worthy.

I'm not even saying tell each other you love one another 50 a minute. I'm saying the enthusiasm and love should come off of one another like your favorite perfume. When one is having a bad day and the other listens, the same should occur when the shoe is on the other foot. When one partakes in an event, the other should be there. Front row. And when its switched, the supporter shouldn't be let down because the other partner is self absorbed.
When it all boils down, in relationships there should be mutual feelings and support. No one should be giving more than the other. And if you are and you think that's fine... You need Jesus.

Distance and Time

        A lot of couples are afraid of long distance relationships for various reasons. Afraid that the other person may cheat. Not seeing each other everyday. And so on. Number 1. If you're afraid that they will cheat then I don't think your status should be "Taken" or "In a Relationship". Number 2. Not seeing each other everyday? Never heard of Oovoo? Skype? Shut up. Not saying that it's easy, but I'm not saying it's Chinese math either.

I always tell my boyfriend that distance and time are our only enemies. When it's said that distance makes the heart grow fonder, that's not a joke. You start to appreciate every millisecond, second, minute and hour with that person. The wait and anticipation in seeing each other builds every time you speak to one another. Or see a tweet from them. Or a picture pass by in the slideshow on your laptop's screensaver. 

        I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a little bit over a year and I must say, I'm always jealous of people who can see him every single day. It's what I was used to in high school, but it's part of growing up individually and as a collective. I honestly believe we are still together because of communication and genuine love. All the other components such as seeing each other everyday is fairly irrelevant compared to communication. Telling each other about your day or simply saying "I love you" can go a long way. When I don't hear from my boyfriend like all day, I kind of feel incomplete. Things don't feel right.

        I remember having a discussion with some guy last year about how he feels that when a couple goes off to different schools, they won't last because they're so young. And that there will be cheating and whatnot. Well I had to quickly throw in my concrete facts. Age isn't a factor. Grown people can't even handle it so that's invalid. This goes back to me saying, communication and genuine love is what you need. Now if you go off to school and start cheating... Then you didn't want that relationship to last. And you're just remedial. 

        Now mind you, everyone can't handle a long distance relationship. It's not meant for every couple because every couple simply just isn't strong enough for it. I don't care if you're 15 or 55. 

I Didn't Ask You

Why is it that single people or people who've been in a relationship for a week think that they can give couples who have been together for some time, relationship advice? That's like Justin Beiber and Selena Gomez giving Barack and Michelle advice. Move. What makes you so confident that your advice matters? If you're single with so much to say about relationships, then exactly why are you single? And if you're in a new relationship... You just need to shut up and apply some of that advice to your own relationship.
   

Me + You = Relationship, Not Me + You + Her + Him = Relationship

A lot of relationships don't prosper because there's those people who are non factors and think they're entitled to  your relationship. I don't think those irrelevant people understand the fact that... The relationship consists of two people. Him and Her.. Or Her and Her or Him and Him. Whatever floats their boat. More power to them. It's sad because I see so many relationships with that odd character thinking they know what's going on in a relationship. Trying to live through what you and your significant other have because they're a piss poor individual who doesn't know how to mind theirs. I think it's worse when this person is in a relationship but pays so much attention to whats going on your way.

For example, my boyfriend and I just passed our 2 year mark. I personally think we know more than the people who've been in a relationship for like 1 hour, but they try to give us advice. -_____- That's like being single and giving a married couple advice. Pause.... Move. People say I drag him through all this "crap". Which shocks me because... I don't think I asked other people what they have to say. And it shocks him as well because it's like "What crap?" Oh. Ok. I'm also flabbergasted as well because no one knows what goes on between him and I unless you're one of my Best Friends. And majority of the time they don't even know what's going on. So these random people just run with your tweets. Your tumblr. Your Facebook, and think they have your relationship rolled out on the table. No... Once again Move. I honestly say my boyfriend and I go through REAL relationship problems. Not those retarded "He didn't add me on facebook' or "His status says single still". Those childish High School relationships that will not last past 3, maybe 4 months. Uh Uh.. We're real. We act like a couple that's been married for years. And a lot of people admire that. I admire them for admiring us. 

Do you see Jay-Z and Beyonce walking around with a 3rd boyfriend or girlfriend? The people who care way more about your relationship than themselves or their own are secretly competing with you. Trying to be better than you. For what though? You and your relationship is still retarded because you built it on the foundation of trying to be better than the next relationship. The person looking in is more than likely a sad individual who is very unhappy about life and don't want to see you happy. Try your hardest to eliminate them out of your business. They thrive off other peoples unhappiness.

*The couple in the picture is me and my boyfriend. The ONLY people in our relationship.*

You Did it To Yourself

Nowadays relationships don't last because people are in a new relationship every 3 months and they're telling each other they love each other so quickly. You cannot possibly be over Jimmy or Alice who you've dated for 2 months, and then love Joey or Ashley who you started dating a month after breaking up with Jimmy or Alice. That shows a various of things: A. You never really loved them. B. You don't know what love is, Stupid. C. You're a hopeless romantic. D. You just like saying you have a significant other, which is dumb as well.

And what makes things so much worse is that whenever one is engaged in these monthly relationships, they swear UP and DOWN they're getting married. -_____- Ring. Ring. Hello? Yes... Umm... How do you figure? NEXT! I don't understand this theory at all. You are basically setting yourself... Or selves up for over dramatic heartbreak which is no one's fault but your own. During the first one of two months of dating someone you should still be on the "Like" aka getting to know each other. Not be in love. What is in the water you're drinking? Ultimately when your "Heart is breaking" (which its not), it's actually you losing your mind... Because you're retarded.

What is Love?

A paper I wrote last semester about what I think the definition of Love is. Enjoy! =]

      Love to me is very hard to explain. It is comparable to trying to explain what water tastes like. It is that definite feeling that you know a person will do every and anything in their power to make you happy. Though the feeling is like a feeling of no other.  Love is a powerful and inexplicable feeling above all others. It is passion, it is desire, it is affection, it is pure and it is true. No one can put the feeling into words but once you feel it, you just know. The key thing to this ‘Love’ term is that a person can't love another so purely as once they have learned to fully love oneself.  

                   There are many stages of love at different ages and different types. You have that love for your parents for bringing you into this world and supporting you through thick and thin. Then it is the love you have for a best friend. You guys can go through everything from first major break up with a boy to a major fight, but still have the feeling that everything you guys do, you would not want to experience what you have experienced with one another, with someone else. Then there is the love of a significant other, which in my case is being in love.  It may sound cheesy, but to me and as an individual who can testify, I think love for my boyfriend is when we argue to not just argue about some random female or guy, but about a relevant situation that not only helps one, but both of you grow. Arguing is a form of love. Neither one of us wants to see each other do the bare minimum, so we tell each other like it is. If it was not love, nine out of ten, we would let each other look stupid and act stupid. It is kind of like that certain feeling you get in your heart and mind that only Time and Distance are your only enemies and nothing else matters. In all relationships where Love is present, you can tell all and never be judged by a comment, look, or action. It is that feeling that you know that you can stop walking on pins and needles, and relax and be yourself.         

                    To love a person is to give them a piece of you to have and forever hold. One you are content with never getting back. The definition of love evolves, it changes with time. It evolves as we age, and gain wisdom. What we knew to be love at age 18 may be entirely different than what you find it to be at 40. However it doesn't mean you never loved that person. Love is the only feeling you cannot control. It is not an emotion that can cause you to put your pride aside. It is not an emotion that lets you see past mistakes and flaws. It is a strong bond or attachment with another person.

                    Love is that acceptance and feeling that a lot of people search to receive and or give all their life. Whether if it is from trying to receive love from a parent or whatever the case may be. It is that reassurance that it is ok to hold on and never let go. But sometimes it is usually  mixed up with Being in Love. Something that is very relatable to one’s feelings toward a spouse. Love is a bond. A bond that is there no matter what; exemplifying the statement: If you loved someone, you just do not stop loving them. You will love them forever, just not as much. 

Like. Love. Lust.

In today's society, people often misconstrue if they like someone, love someone, or if it's really lust.

LIKE: This is the step and feeling people tend to forget to take into consideration these days. The beginning feeling that makes a foundation for all the other feelings soon to follow. Get to know the person. What makes them laugh. Their aspirations. For Christ sake, their favorite color. Something that'll make you want more! ATTENTION: PHYSICAL ATTRACTION WILL NOT CUT IT!! CUTE... NO PERSONALITY.

LOVE: The number one thing that gets people confused when it comes to that word Love, which is so easily tossed around is whether if they're IN love or if they just love that person. To be in love with someone is to be emotionally devoted to a person. Giving them your all: Emotionally and mentally. Notice I didn't say physically. Just because you have sex with someone.. doesn't mean either one of you are in love. That's lust but, I'll get back to that. Now on the other hand, to love someone simply means the opposite of being in love. I love my parents, for they brought me into this world. Made me into the young lady I am today. But note, I'm not in love with them. That's creepy. 

LUST: Lust, Lust, Lust. Always mixed up with love. Lust is a spur of the moment type thing. You just met her a week ago. You're in love. Already. -____- You and I both know that's not the case. You just want her skippies! And bet you dollar and a donut that he doesn't "love" you anymore. Sorry to say but it was never love to begin with. Just those hormones, which is always the ringleader when lust is involved. Building a relationship off of Lust... Is a Pornstar relationship. Ehhh... Oh well.