Emotional vs. Physical

There are a lot of relationships where one or both parties are cheating. What people fail to realize is that physically cheating is not the only form of cheating, but emotionally as well. Both are horrible but in my eyes I believe that emotional cheating is worse.
Physically cheating is when one goes outside the relationship and has sex or any other physical act that is displeasing to the other partner. I don't understand why people cheat anyways. If you're unhappy then break it off.
Then there's emotionally cheating. Emotionally cheating is when you emotionally give yourself to someone outside of your relationship. Forming a deep relationship with one that isn't your boyfriend or girlfriend. I believe this is worse than physically cheating because normal relationships are built on emotional foundation. The feeling that love or deep like is apparent. Though there are those relationships that are built on sex. Those don't last because there isn't any connection emotionally and mentally.
I always questioned why people cheated instead of breaking things off. It leads to heartbreak and low self esteem. I say low self esteem because he or she may start to feel as though they can't measure up to anything all due to the fact that they were cheated on. Besides, cheating is a sin. You sinned because you couldn't control your hormones or you didn't have the balls to end one relationship to start another? Nice.

Can You Hear Me Now?

The biggest and most important quality in a relationship is Communication. When I say communicating, I don't mean via Twitter or Facebook. That doesn't count in my book. And I don't mean communicating days and weeks at a time. I mean communicating so that every problem and emotion is accounted for. Sending a text or making a 5 minute phone call. Something. Harboring emotions and problems because the other person does not communicate makes even bigger problems. Telling each other how you feel or when there is a problem should not be a problem within itself. When you are running from the act of communicating, or the problems, nothing ever gets solved. Things start to crumble. Become rocky. This is where my post "Reciprocated Love" comes into play. (If you haven't read it, do so.) It's not fair if one person gives their dying all in a relationship and then the other person is just chilling. In other terms, it's not fair that one person is steady communicating. Approaching the problems and feelings at hand, only to be met with the other person ignoring them and not having any type of interest in communicating back.

If one is constantly shown that they are ignored or not worth the time to be talked to, I'm pretty sure there is someone else out there who would not have a problem with doing what the other person is not doing. Not communicating can and will kill any relationship. No matter how much love there is. No talking. No loving.

Why You Can't Go

Previously I wrote a post entitled "Why Stay?", where I wrote about the signs in which one should leave a relationship. This post will be the opposite.
More than likely you've probably sat and asked yourself "Why do I stay?". You probably came to the conclusion that you love that person too much.  May sound cliche and whatnot, but in many situations, it's the truth. You've invested so much time and energy and you honestly cannot picture yourself with any other person. May sound cliche also. But that's ok. You truly believe that things can be worked out and will try any and everything in your power so things can change. There's a saying that goes along the lines of "The couples that face the most, are often the strongest" or something like that. Bare with me. But yea, if you bail out after every argument or disagreement then you really didn't want to be in relationship. That's what relationships consist and are made of. No one said loving was going to be as easy as 1, 2, 3 or your ABC's. Otherwise every body could endure pain and hardships love bring.

Why Stay?

Ever been in a relationship where you sat and pondered on whether you should stay or not? Constantly weighing out the Good and the Bad. Trying to understand why you're still with that person? If you're just wasting your time? There's so many factors that can make you ask yourself "Why am I here?"
For one, you're just NOT HAPPY. You get aggravated and pissed off when you see their name flashing across your phone. They aren't giving you what you need, even when you ask for it. They can't take the time out of their schedule to send a text or make a phone call. They just don't reach out to communicate period. They act as if they don't want to be bothered by you, thus ignoring your messages or calls. Though they are steady updating their status or tweeting their little hearts away. Continuance of arguing. Don't get me wrong, arguing is healthy in a relationship, but if you're arguing then avoiding coming up with a solution or the situation all together, then that leads to a whole bunch of unhappiness. Constantly having excuses. "Excuses are the tools of the weak and incompetent used to build monuments out of nothingness. Those who use them will never accomplish anything." Enough said. Emotions are being hidden. How exactly do you think a relationship will go anywhere if how your feeling is a mystery? TRUST. Trust shouldn't and cannot just lie within one person. Trust has to be mutual. If you trust them but you're afraid that they may judge you, shut down or whatever the case may be, then you don't trust them. You find yourself the only one in the relationship. Mentally and emotionally that is. You're the only one fighting and defending the partnership. Giving your absolute all for something that the other person clearly doesn't give a care in the world about. Lastly, you're just tired. Fed up of doing circular motions. Going back and forth. Tired.
Now the real questions are, Do you want to stick around and try to change these things? Or are you done trying? Is this person worth the constant struggle? Every relationship is different and sometimes the problems are as well... Sometimes.

Thrift Store Love

For some reason females believe that in order to make a man love them they have to have sex with them. Girl... Boo. You know better. Just because you open your legs doesn't mean he's going to fall in love with you. Your stuff isn't that powerful. Sit down.
Understandable he says and does all the right things. So what. I'm not trying to hear it until his words and actions line up with one another. He loves you? Ok. So how is he showing it? By taking you to Taco Bell and letting you chose 3 items from the Value Menu? You really need a hug. If you really give him a piece of you because he took you to Taco Bell then you automatically just lowered your self worth equivalent to a Thrift Store.
This is nonetheless complete Lust. No love anywhere to be found. Unless you count the "love" you've somehow came to the conclusion that is between your legs. Which is still Lust. lol I guess the phrase "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife" has some true meaning. No man wants a Thrift Store. They want a Beverly Hills boutique. Huge value difference.

What I Like About You

For the post, I asked multiple people what characteristics did they look for in a person in order to be attracted to them. I must admit, I received the most dumbest and shallowest responses I have EVER heard in my life. It made me come to the conclusion that people will either be in multiple short lasting relationships or single all of their life. Understandable, outer appearance really grabs your eyes first but looks does not cover their personality. Though some people don't mind them not having a personality. And these are the people who are remedial.

As for women, the majority of them stated that in order for one to catch her eye and remain interested, he must be: honest, family oriented, funny, sociable, communicable, concerned, SAVED (If not saved, then have some type of belief system), strong, confident, I N T E L L I G E N T, someone who makes her feel protected and spontaneous. Also one who is not afraid to admit he has feelings for you. He's not going around hiding how he feels. And as for men, I gathered that they want a woman who is: intelligent, family oriented, caring, outgoing, God fearing, level headed, humorous, a girly girl, submissive to an extent.

I'm not saying that you're about to find a guy or girl with all these qualities. God didn't make anyone that perfect. You're going to have to do without some of these things or work on them. Note, I didn't include attractive in the lists. I did that because it's evident that looks are accountable, but always remember that personality can make the most beautiful person ugly.

Protect Me, Protect Me Not

I believe one of the key aspects of a relationship should be protection. It's not something that you come out and say "Oh! While we're together you have to have my back and protect me." It's something you possess as a child, but only strengthens with each relationship you have. Or by what someone means to you. I believe if the woman of the relationship is carrying the protection of both her and the man, then she's better off without him because before the relationship she was defending herself and herself only. Man is suppose to be the provider. Not the other way around. A female is suppose to feel safe and confident when she's with the one she loves or likes. She's wants to have the security that if a random dude at the mall just calls her a B-word and jaws her, that her significant other is going to hop in and do something about it. Not just sit there and observe. As for a woman, she has to put anyone in their place if their man is being dogged, especially when it's not in his presence. He as a man should also have the stern and confident feeling that you are going to have his back. Protection is a two way thing and when one slacks and can't protect then that leaves one feeling betrayed and hurt. Like their significant other just left them outside in the wilderness to fight against lions, tigers, and bears.